Do you believe in love?

[Setareh Juventina]

What I mean is, romantic love...I've come to think, more and more, that I don't think it actually exists...that aside from sexual relations it's not much different from having a friend.

I mean, isn't it really just an emotional adjustment to the biological necessity of reproduction? Wether you actually reproduce or not, the drive stems from that doesn't it? We feel attracted to someone because we're meant to so that we should one day wants to have sex with them and create new humans. If this drive didn't exist we would obviously not last long.

Say if you compare it to the love people have for their children, it's unconditional where as love between two partners is actually heavily based on demands. If your partner wasn't nice to you, you'd leave...so is it really love? Eh, I don't know...but I think it's an interesting thing to discuss. Go nuts!

Amor y Paz
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Man is the only animal clever enough to build The Empire State Building and stupid enough to jump from it.

[Tommy BOO]

I believe in a thing called Love... but not anymore after reading this thread. Ha!
Seriously though, I think it's something else than just wanting to have sex and have kids. Other animals just fuck each other because it's natural, reproduction is the meaning of their life (well, how do we actually know that?!). Humans are stupid enough to have other things in their lives as well, simply because a human is the smartest and stupidest animal.

So, I do think that romantic love exists... it doesn't necessarily work without sex though, at least not for very long!

Oh yeah, I just remembered that I once saw a document about monkeys on Discovery Channel, they said that monkeys probably have some kind of romantic love as well. It was a funny document.
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[Setareh Juventina]

[Tommy BOO]

Well, what exactly is 'romantic love' then?
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[Setareh Juventina]

[Tommy BOO]

Hey, you're a girl and you're supposed to believe in all those romantic things. How come I'm the one defending romantic love here now?!
It does exist, maybe you haven't been searching it hard enough. Or something. Haha.
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"Tommy Boo has played a pivotal role in my life. I've looked up to him since I was a kid and he has inspired every note of music I have ever written. The man is a fucking genius" -BC

[ciaranm]

Just because love might be a chemical response doesn't lessen its potency as an emotion. I believe people fall in love and it's a lot more intoxicating than being friendly with someone. If you are not in love it's hard to imagine how overpowering it actually is. It's like telling someone who is suffering third degree burns that you can undersatnd their pain because you blistered your finger on a zippo lighter. Personally, I'm not in love with anyone at the moment, but that's my opinion on the matter. Even if it is a load of all balls, why knock it, if it feels so profound and special?


I BELIEVE IN LOVE...........................

[Kris]

I believe in Love and I'm in Love and that Love saved my life and I couldn't ever tell you how important Love is to me.

x
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"fashioned by the blade of a world that doesn't care,
feeling so removed, drifting thru stealing air then...
pause and think about it, try to move and shift the pain, but it's there you feel it kicking and you scream and feel alive."

[Setareh Juventina]

This is such a coincidence because when I went off-line I watched a movie that was about the topic actually.

So anyway, maybe you're right but I think if we didn't have the drive to make babies we wouldn't love anyone like that...thus the reason for why I think it may not exist.

Yes, I'm not in love at the moment so I can't know (and I think I've never been in love either, just had 'crushes', so my argument is definitely colored), at the same time, the person who is in love is so intoxicated they may mistake other things for love.

And that was a horrible comparison...I for one never thought I understood severe pain like that just because I myself have not had it.

I often compare partner love to parent-child love, and it just seems so much less and weaker and disappearing (it should be noted I have a good relationship with my parent). Not compare in the sense that I think they should give exactly the same feelings but that people give and receive so much more to their children.

Something else that you may want to know, I don't love easily, I'm a serious believer that true love, in all its forms, takes a long time to develope.
And this subject, when I say I don't think romantic love really exists, I don't see it as a bad thing or that we should all stop romancing...

Love and Peace
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Man is the only animal clever enough to build The Empire State Building and stupid enough to jump from it.

[darraghh]

classic ciaran, comparing love to third degree burns.
My new favourite person is victor in big brother, who came out with this classic line to describe one of the other housemates

"she's about as stable as rick waller doing a riverdance on a three legged table..."

[ciaranm]

Hey I thought that was a good metaphor. I took note of it for the novel I'm writing, tentativley titled, "the lengthening day: a study of unfulfilled dreams....." "How could she not know how he felt, sitting by the telephone, watching the May storms tear the last bloom of apple blossom from the tree his father planted in the back garden.

Darragh is in love you know.......................................................................with a fuckin big mac. supersized baby.

[Setareh Juventina]

I'm in love...with a schampoo! HAHA!
Actually, it's the best shoes in the world I'm ion love with, my cat and dog shoes, they are so incredible.

Amor y Paz
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Man is the only animal clever enough to build The Empire State Building and stupid enough to jump from it.

[John Mc]

Love is like 3rd degree burns is a fantastic quote and I will use it as the title if I ever release a heavy metal album. Don't worry Ciaran, I will credit you in the sleeve notes.

[ciaranm]

Cheers John, It'll be up there with Smell The Glove....

[Tommy Tynans Lovechild]

Yes. And when its right its not a question of beliveing its a question of knowing.

Oh but you still get burnt mind